Jealousy is natural, hating is not!

Have you ever had big news to share with friends or family and they totally didn't share in your orgasm of happiness?

I'm sure we've all been there at some point in life. Sometimes it's actually you that's providing the "Voice of reason", "Giving the real". I don't know about you, but I'm just not built that way. I feel as though if something GREAT is happening in someone's life, and I've been a witness to it; I'm happy as if it were me! I mean why not? Energy can be transferred so I figure if it's close enough for me to hear about it, then it's close enough for it to get to me!

I think I see the most of this type of HATER behavior on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, EVEN LINKED IN. You hear someone saying, " Ewe, so and so got a new job. Are they even qualified?". Who gives a hoot?! You should be trying to get those connections to see if there's room at that company for you? Or perhaps perk up your own resume.

So people please don't block your own good fortune by throwing shade on others. Stand under that limelight like it was your goodness! Don't waste time being stuck in your feelings because someone's windfall came before yours. Spread love, continue to encourage, and wait for your good fortune to pour right in.

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