30's the New 20!

Saturday night I caught a Cosby show marathon. I watched and watched and fell in love with the show all over again. I watched an episode in which Claire was stressed over her work schedule and her 4 children that were home; general blunders of everyday life. Well Cliff asked her if it was the stress of work, or the stress and home and in both cases she answered , No. But she was still super stressed. So this wonderful man decided to help her by setting up a babysitter and taking her out for a romantic hotel stay, renting a limo and taking her to a lovely dinner. Everyone let's stop right there and dissect what I just said. 1. The hard working lawyer wife who has five children is stressed about both her life, and her work. She clearly has no work life balance and yet remains to look flawless. 2. Her doctor husband takes time out of his busy schedule to speak with her every morning, help her with said children. 3. Her doctor husband, who's witty and compassionate says, I...

Today, while my music was on shuffle I came across one of my favorite John Legend songs, "Again". I love John Legend , because his voice is like velvet,  and often times if I can't presently relate to his lyrics, I can relate to him based on my past experiences. So the lyrics of the song are fairly simple, he speaks about how he met this woman, and they both confirmed they were wrong for each other, they fought, they loved, they broke up, and continued to repeat the process. Sound familiar? We've all been there. What makes people press the reset button on relationships? Could be anything really, their smile, their ability to help you with your problems, they're.. physical attributes. There could be a number of reasons. But there is some sort of force that attracts you to a person that often is difficult to extinguish.  But despite of it all, those wonderful attributes that they have, and the way they make you feel. All that fun and passion comes with a price. ...

So.. Watching a reality show one day or a preview of one. There seem to be so many. There is a common theme in the drama of the shows. Infidelity in relationships. So .. I began to ponder. Hey, why do men cheat? Why do women cheat? So here's how we're going to dig into this issue today. Ladies, Men, not putting this out here so you can start checking your significant other's phone or itemizing a check list to destroy them. It's just an open forum, we're just going to talk it out. Let's begin. First let's define what a RELATIONSHIP really is. A loose translation to a definition I read,  was like, "a sexual, or romantic friendship between 2 people". Note that the definition states that a relationship is comprised of two people, not six, not one main and a few dip offs. TWO PEOPLE. Now that we've gotten that out the way.. Let's continue The reasons I believe women cheat: 1. They are not receiving a consistent amount of attention...

Have you ever had big news to share with friends or family and they totally didn't share in your orgasm of happiness? I'm sure we've all been there at some point in life. Sometimes it's actually you that's providing the "Voice of reason", "Giving the real". I don't know about you, but I'm just not built that way. I feel as though if something GREAT is happening in someone's life, and I've been a witness to it; I'm happy as if it were me! I mean why not? Energy can be transferred so I figure if it's close enough for me to hear about it, then it's close enough for it to get to me! I think I see the most of this type of HATER behavior on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, EVEN LINKED IN. You hear someone saying, " Ewe, so and so got a new job. Are they even qualified?". Who gives a hoot?! You should be trying to get those connections to see if there's room at that company for you? Or perhaps perk up your ow...

Some people say as women, when you reach the age of 18 you are an adult. I looked up adulthood, and ran upon this very poetic definition. " Adulthood- mature and sensible, not childish" . So I took another second to think further.. have I reached adulthood? Am I sensible? I'd like to think that I am but you know.. that can be open for speculation! Growing up, I would try to find examples of strong, dignified poised women to map my maturity after, and for the most part, until I was about 20, I did my best to be just like all of those examples. Pulling my resources together and creating a super adult, a composite character of my most famed examples! A woman that holds her liquor, smart, speaks with purpose, spiritually connected, dresses to kill, and smokes a mean pack of cigarettes. (Now of course, that wasn't the part I was supposed to extract but go figure). Something like these chicks:  But in my early twenties I was more like.. (Get ready) This was more f...

So I've had this blog open for nearly two years and have not dared to post. Wondering why that is, I realized a few things about myself. 1. I have a bunch of opinions about everything, and very little organization in my brain 2. I love to put my foot in my mouth 3. I sort of care what people think. That being said, now that I'm 30 years old, happy in my own skin;  I've decided, I'll say what I want! Hey it's america, we have free speech here." Game on! lol So for all those of you, who have lots of feelings, and don't like to poke fun at yourselves, I suggest you turn away immediately. This is not the blog for you.. You may learn a lot about yourself, you may not, but you will be thoroughly entertained. I'm going to discuss whatever, whenever so please sit back , relax, and enjoy the ride.