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The Wife-Sister Wife Series Conclusion

A lonely wife sits at her cubicle at work, thinking about how strange her husband has been behaving recently. He has come home angry, he falls asleep without kissing her good night, he's been working extremely late hours.. all the signs that her life experience has told her were signs of cheating. He wouldn't she thought, "After all we've been through; as much as I put out? " Well, maybe not as much as I used to, this kid keeps me extremely busy, and so does my new job, but he knows I'm dead tired, why wouldn't he understand that?" She sits there, tapping her fingers in heavy thought, wondering if her thoughts are even possible. "This man is a great provider, he is a fantastic father, and before these last couple of weeks, he's been a great husband.. But something just isn't right" . If he was cheating, what would she do, she thought. He is a man, a successful good looking one at that. And those types of men are hard to come by. She doesn't want to start over. "So maybe, he's just tired from work, you know because he's putting in so much time and all.", she thinks.  So.. as while sitting there in heavy thought, something tells her to check their joint account bank statements.. She logs onto the site... AMC theaters 15.00, Ruth Kris 120.59, Sprint 129.00, and the list goes on. This is strange, she thinks "We haven't attended a movie in months, let alone a steakhouse! " She starts to seep with anger. Then, she second guesses her thoughts, thinking making he's entertaining business partners and he finally got the business line on his phone that he's always wanted. Until she finds, "Embassy Suites, $349.50".

Now.. it doesn't take a prominent prosecutor to close this case, her husband is renting hotel suites, going on nice dinners, and paying cell phone bills. For all of you reading this, I advise that if you're in this type of situation, the next step, is to speak to your husband, not what she's about to do...

Our composite wife decides to dig into their shared plan phone records, she noticed a phone number from her husband's line that he's called, over and over, DAILY. She receives a call from her husband. She picks up.

Him: Hi Babe, how are you?
With discontent in her voice, oh I'm fine, just working, what about you?
Him: Well not bad, just wanted to let you know that the boss is making me work late again, on a Friday no less, so I'll be home late, so please don't wait up.
She says, with a deep sigh, well babe are you sure you can't get out of it, I really wanted to talk, and spend some time with you.
Him: I know babe, it can't be helped, I'll be home as soon as I can.

Now , this is starting to play out like an episode of cheaters! Where is joey grieco when you need him? She hangs up, angry as ever.. Takes a break from her desk, (notice she hasn't been working much today). and she writes down that number.

She goes out to smoke, in heavy thought now counting all the times he's called with the same "I'm working line". Condemning herself for believing that he was actually working. She is now at a level ten. So she dials that number. Our composite lover (from the last story picks up).

Composite Lover: Hello,
Composite wife: Hi. Who is this?
Composite Lover: This is "Pick a name guys , your decision"
Composite Wife: Why is my husband calling you at 3AM, are you sleeping with him?
Composite Lover: Well...
Composite Wife: Before you say anything else, you need to know he's my man, we've been together X amount of years and I'd appreciate if you'd leave my husband alone! Don't make me blah blah blah bleep bleep bleep. (You get the point. ) CLICK


I don't think we need to go any further, you all get the point. The wife made the wrong decision. She called and threatened our composite lover when really the person who deserved the confronting is none other than her husband. We have all been witness or been in earshot of stories like this, so we've all seen this happen before. There can be a way to reconcile in a marriage that has been ushered into this type of peril. But not until both parties are honest and upfront. And sadly, the person who gets hurt is the mistress.

I call this series the sister wife series because in so many instances, the battle continues and the wife and lover begin to share the man. They both keep him on, they're both equally as angry, they're  both losing, and no one takes the time to really consider that the husband is the core issue. He's been dishonest, he's not appreciating the value of the women in his life, and they are allowing him to do so.

I was chatting about this type of issue with one of my friends, and we coined the idea that, if they're just going to share this man, why don't they pool their resources and just own property together. You all can share him publicly, no one will be in the dark, you can both spend his money and share his time. The epitome of a poly amorous relationship. But in reality.. most women are too prideful and competitive for this to work. Not to mention it's ridiculous. No one should have to share their husband with anyone but his children!

I had fun with these posts but unfortunately it's too emotionally exhausting for me to continue this series! It makes me sad! I challenge all the people gracious enough to read this post to take a stand for yourself, and not let a man use you for his personal gain. Don't allow yourself to be devalued for the sake of a small fraction of happiness. Shine your light, don't let it be dimmed by a weak man! There are plenty of good ones out there ladies. Just start fishing!


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  1. Loved the last line... start fishing indeed.

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  2. Thanks Renee Pitter! It's like the saying goes, there's plenty of fish in the sea. When one door closes, another one opens. Seek and you shall find.. all that lol there's a bunch of them :) Thanks for reading

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